Obligatory Obsession: The Effects of People-Pleasing and the Path to a Growth Mindset

Obligatory Obsession: The Effects of People-Pleasing and the Path to a Growth Mindset

In a world where validation often becomes an “Obligatory Obsession,” people-pleasing can profoundly affect mindset. Women, especially women of color are particularly affected by this. This need for approval may be intensified by societal pressures and expectations. The constant quest for external validation can lead to a fixed mindset, where we tether our self-worth to others’ opinions.

However, there is hope! Embracing a growth mindset can serve as a powerful antidote to this “Obligatory Obsession.” Through the five pillars of belief, abilities, spirit, intellect, and self-insight, individuals can break free from people-pleasing and embark on a transformative journey. This journey is not just about overcoming external pressures but about realizing that one’s intrinsic worth is the true source of empowerment.

“Deal with yourself as an individual worthy of respect, and make everyone else deal with you the same way.”

Nikki Giovanni

Let’s explore how embracing a growth mindset, guided by these five pillars, can lead to personal liberation and the cessation of hiding behind external validation.


By focusing on belief, we can learn to trust in our worth and capabilities, recognizing that our value doesn’t depend on others’ opinions.


Developing our abilities becomes a priority, allowing us to continually improve and learn from our experiences.


Cultivating our Spirit means nurturing our inner strength and resilience, which can help us withstand the pressures of people-pleasing.


Harnessing our intellect encourages critical thinking and self-reflection, helping us make decisions that align with our true selves.


Ultimately, embracing self-insight enables us to understand our motivations and triggers, empowering us to make choices that serve our growth.

Remember, your worth is intrinsic, and a growth mindset can help you realize the limitless possibilities within you!

Discover More: For an in-depth exploration of the five pillars of a growth mindset and how to stop hiding behind external validation, I invite you to explore my latest book, “Stop Hiding: Unlock Your Full Potential and Embrace the 5 Pillars of a Growth Mindset.” It’s a comprehensive guide to unlocking your potential and embracing personal empowerment.

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Warm regards.

Jocelyn Lee

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