Obligatory Obsession: The Effects of People-Pleasing and the Path to a Growth Mindset

In a world where validation often becomes an “Obligatory Obsession,” people-pleasing can profoundly affect mindset. Women, especially women of color are particularly affected by this. This need for approval may be intensified by societal pressures and expectations. The constant quest for external validation can lead to a fixed mindset, where we tether our self-worth to […]

Personal Growth Pains: Pressure-a Double-Edged Sword

Several months ago, I started experiencing a snapping hip sensation. My hip joint would buckle, causing a brief moment of pain, and then my movements returned to normal. Thinking that I was out of shape and needed more stretching, I allowed this to go on for several months. In the past few months, however, I […]

Disponibilité

“Be available to the things themselves; to the fresh voice, the strangest voice, your unalienated voice; for it sounds different from your habitual voice, and yet it is your true voice, the call to authenticity.”   Who are you?  Can you distinguish between your authentic and habitual self? It can be challenging. Behaviors such as […]

Embracing Detours with a Growth Mindset

Life has a funny way of leading us down unexpected paths. Just when we think we have everything figured out, a detour appears. These detours can redirect us, challenge us, and even frustrate us. However, what if we embraced these detours instead of becoming discouraged? What if we saw them as opportunities for growth and […]

Growth Mindset Strategies for Encountering Life’s Turbulent Times

Throughout my life, I have traveled extensively, both domestically and internationally. While most of my flights have been smooth, turbulence has always been a cause for concern. Pilots are trained to navigate rough air caused by mountain waves or convective air changes during thunderstorms. They must adjust the plane’s altitude to maintain balance and prevent […]

Is It Worth It?

Considering the long-term effects and repercussions, thinking deeply about our choices is essential. If we want to make the best decisions for our future, we should ask ourselves if our choices align with our values and beliefs. Resisting temptation and acting with restraint is associated with impulse control. Controlling emotions, desires, and behaviors requires self-control.